FROM ANDREWS MCMEEL SYNDICATION
FOR RELEASE: TUESDAY, JANUARY 6, 2026
DEAR ABBY by Abigail Van Buren
FAMILY STILL CHOOSES A SIDE AMID AMICABLE DIVORCE
DEAR ABBY: My wife’s nephew is getting divorced. The process seems to be amicable; there was no cheating or abuse. They have two children. Even though the soon-to-be-ex, “Michelle,” has always been welcoming and nice, my wife’s family has circled the wagons. They no longer talk to her and have made clear I can’t either. I don’t think that’s right.
Michelle has done nothing wrong and has been cordial to us. My wife says to stay out of it and never contact her. I think that’s immature. I realize my thoughts don’t matter. However, I’m thinking about contacting Michelle to say I feel bad about being in that position and apologize.
I think if I did, I’d feel better about myself, and she’d know that everyone doesn’t hate her. Should something happen to my wife’s nephew, I would have some basis for connection to the children. What do you think? — NAVIGATING CHANGE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR NAVIGATING: I think you are more mature than your wife’s family. You are an adult, and you should do what you feel is right.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
